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Should I Tell My Family I'm Wearing a Wig?

Posted on August 22 2018

Deciding whether or not to tell friends and family about your desire to wear wigs can be a hard mountain to climb. Personally, I love wearing wigs and having such an easy way to add some diversity to my look, while for a friend of mine with alopecia, wearing a wig is the only way you can get her out of the house. Is either one wrong or great? Below I will discuss my feelings on the matter and hopefully help everyone to better understand how wearing wigs is a personal journey and at the end of the day you have to be happy with you.

 

Should I Tell My Friends and Family I'm Wearing a Wig?


Wearing Wigs is a Personal Journey


Wearing wigs are much like anything else in the beauty world. It is a personal decision made because of how using the certain beauty product or tool adds to our confidence level. Whether wearing a wig is a major or minor facet to your overall look, everyone wears a wig for a different reason and no reason is any more or less valid than anyone else's. You are wearing a wig for you, not for the world at large.


How Supportive Are They Usually?


This all depends upon your situation. In the case of my friend, her family threw wigs at her to try to make her feel like she had before she lost her hair; while with my situation - someone who has natural hair but just likes to wear wigs - it was a bit more difficult to explain why I do this on the daily and not just for special occasions. But discussing why you are wearing a wig, will make them much more inclined to understand your perspective. 


How Comfortable Are You With Others Knowing?


I have been wearing wigs for so long that it has become a non-issue where others either don’t mention it or if they do they compliment me and then it's back to the regular conversation. I have never been in a situation where I have felt like the outlier because I was wearing a wig in a social situation. With high quality wigs like our %100 hand-tied, lace front wigs, nobody needs to know you're wearing a wig unless you tell them.


All That Matters


Regardless of how your family and friends react, if you are happy and you have the confidence to live a better, brighter, and fuller life, that in the end is all that is important. Once your family and friends - no matter how against it they may be - see how different you are and your confidence level shift, it will be difficult for anyone to say that they think wearing a wig is a bad idea. If you feel like your family may not be as supportive as you'd like, you can find support from other wig-wearers at our wigs.org forum!


What do you think? What is your experience with opening up about your wig journey? Let us know in the comments below!

Special thanks to guest writer Alyce Eyer for this article!

14 comments

  • The Wig Experts: October 23, 2018

    Hi Gabe,

    Yes, we ship to Canada! Shipping will be calculated at checkout.

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  • The Wig Experts: October 23, 2018

    Terri,

    One of our Client Care Representatives will reach out to you via email with a color recommendation!

    - The Wig Experts

  • Jacqueline Swartz: October 10, 2018

    Have been wearing wigs and african american wigs for many years. This was the first one I purchased from your company.
    I am very happy with my purchase .It looks great and I have gotten many compliments
    I have no trouble telling people I am wearing a wig. They all say they couldn’t tell.

  • Kathy: October 10, 2018

    I wore my topper for 3 years without telling anyone. Even my husband didn’t know!
    One night I was super tired and left it in the bathroom. My husband found it the next morning. I was horrified. But he didn’t care, loves the way I look and it really helped me to relax.
    I heard someone ask a friend of mine, “Is that your own hair?”
    She snapped back, “I paid for it so I guess it’s mine!”

  • Sheryl “Stevie”: October 03, 2018

    I always had thin hair but not extremely so while I was growing up. Following bariatric surgery 20 years ago when I was 46, the hair in my scalp really thinned out, so I visited a dermatologist who said I had 4 options: try a hair-growing product (I did, to no avail); get a hair transplant (nope); wear a wig (maybe, but I had extremely cold feet about it); or live with it. I lived with it for the next 14 years until I decided that I could no longer do so. Male-patterned baldness was making my condition worse. So I began trying a few on wigs in a few wig stores until I had the nerve to purchase one. I tentatively wore it around the house and eventually ventured out in public wearing one on occasion. Finally seeing myself in side-by-side pictures my kids took of me persuaded me to take the plunge and wear wigs full time. So, on my 60th birthday nearly 7 years ago, I went into work with one on. After the reactions died down that day, there was no looking back for me. I have been wearing a wig full time now for almost 7 years and I know I look way younger than 66 years of age. When women compliment my hair, I always tell them it’s a wig because I don’t care who knows it.

  • lula: October 10, 2018

    I have lost most of my hair to chemo, so I just recently ordered some wigs. I told my mom that I might feel a little embarrassed at first to wear them and this is what she said.

    Everyone who knows you won’t care, and those that don’t know you won’t know.

    haha pretty genius!

  • gabe: October 23, 2018

    hi there
    Do you ship to canada?
    thks

  • Terri Dalquest: October 23, 2018

    I lost my dark brown hair 3 years ago when I was on chemo. When it came back in it was a very pretty silver/white. However, I’ve started losing it in the crown area. I can’t find a topper with more white than gray. Can you help?

  • Alice: September 07, 2018

    My adult daughter and I had a conversation or two before I made the leap and ordered my first wig last year. I took it for a test drive at her house for a couple of weeks with the grands. All supportive, no downside. Came home and it took another month before I was brave enough to come out at the office. Since then I’ve never looked back. No one has challenged me, only comments are positive and more about cut and style, not wigs. My friends outside of work are pretty much the same except for one who says she likes my wigs because I look so much younger.

  • Kath: September 04, 2018

    I agree with Robin. It is no different from wearing makeup. But it really is no one’s business. If someone had the nerve to ask if I’m wearing a wig, I would have the nerve to simply say"This is my hair". Would you ask someone if their teeth are capped? Or if they had a nose job? I certainly hope not! I used to work with a lovely older lady who had major hair loss, and people would joke about it behind her back! I had a friend going through chemo who stated that she would rather die than lose her hair! Again, I have to say….. it is no one’s business but your own! If you feel good and confident wearing a wig, everyone who cares about you should be happy for you! Just my opinion……

  • Louise: September 04, 2018

    I tell anyone who comments on how good my hair looks and you would be surprised at their reaction. “No way!’ It looks so real!” I started losing hair when I was put on Metformin and started with a topper. I have since graduated to full wigs although when I went off the Metformin, my hair started growing back. But, I have come to love the simplicity of wearing a wig. So many ladies that know I wear a wig have started asking where do you get them and so on. Lots of women are afraid of what someone will say if they are wearing wigs. I did at first but not anymore!

  • Robin: September 04, 2018

    I tend to think of wearing a wig or an extension as no different than wearing makeup. Makeup smooths your skin, covers imperfections, highlights your eyes, etc. Why should it be any different to wear extensions? Extensions give my fine, thin hair body, as well as length; an overall improvement to how my hair looks. Just like not everyone is born with the skin of a model, not everyone is born with thick beautiful hair. I don’t go around telling everyone I have extensions, but my close friends know. I’ve never had anyone ask me, but I have volunteered when they tell me their hair “could never look that way”. I tell them yes, it can.

  • KC: September 04, 2018

    I started wearing toppers last wear because of my thinning hair and no shampoo or treatment seems to work and I just don’t want to face the inevitable…and have people feel sorry for me. My husband is glad if it gives me confidence.
    I’ve only told a couple people, only to confirm to those brave enough to ask. I chose pieces close to my bio hair color. Now I guess people may ask, because I just bought a piece in a much lighter color.
    It’s no ones business but if someone asks I will tell. I’m not ashamed and it may help them to learn how to deal with hair loss.

  • Leslie: August 31, 2018

    The only issue I have regarding telling people I wear wigs is when it applies to my dating life. I NEVER tell the guy, because it is a little embarrassing to say you have a hair loss issue. But…its probably better yo tell them than have it fall off when they kiss you goodnight. It has happened a few times!!

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